Couples therapy in NYC
We provide couples therapy in NYC and across New York for partners who want to understand what’s happening between them—especially when the same conflict keeps repeating or distance is growing. If you’re looking for relationship counseling or marriage therapy in New York, you may care deeply about each other and still feel stuck in a dynamic neither person can shift alone. All sessions are online, making it possible to do meaningful couples work without adding travel or scheduling strain.
Many couples come to us after searching for the best online marriage therapy and realizing they want depth-oriented work—not just a quick communication script.
Patterns we work with in couples therapy
Repeating conflict cycles that don’t resolve
Criticism/defensiveness and conversations that escalate fast
Emotional distance, loneliness, or “roommate” feeling
Trust injuries (including secrecy or betrayal)
Power dynamics, resentment, or perfectionism that keeps one partner in control and the other in pursuit
Differences in intimacy, desire, or sex drive
Parenting stress, family-of-origin strain, or blended-family dynamics
Big decisions (marriage, kids, moving, finances) that feel stuck
If any of these patterns feel familiar, request a consultation to talk through what’s happening and decide on next steps.
20-minute phone consult. Choose a therapist — or we’ll match you by fit + schedule.
Sometimes conflict isn’t just about communication—it’s about power. One partner may take control, over-function, or hold high standards, while the other withdraws, complies, or pushes back in quieter ways.
If attachment dynamics are part of what’s happening between you, learn more about our attachment therapy work.
How couples therapy can help
Couples therapy helps you name the pattern you’re caught in and shift it in real time. We slow things down, translate what’s happening underneath the conflict, and build more reliable ways to communicate, repair, and reconnect.
When the same conflict keeps repeating
Many couples come in when the same argument keeps repeating—different topic, same fight. Small logistics can escalate quickly, or bigger decisions (marriage, kids, moving, finances) can turn into a stalemate.
Sometimes the issue isn’t a single conflict—it’s disconnection. You may feel like you’re managing a life together while drifting further apart: less warmth, less trust, and a growing sense of loneliness inside the relationship.
Relationship counseling and marriage therapy
Relationships bring up old expectations, attachment needs, and stress responses—especially under pressure (work, parenting, finances, life transitions). When you’re both depleted, it’s easy to misread each other and react fast.
Couples therapy creates a structured space to hear what’s underneath the argument and practice doing conflict differently.
Online couples therapy: what we focus on
We focus on the interaction between you: communication, emotional safety, trust, intimacy, boundaries, and repair after conflict. We also pay attention to the individual histories and stressors that shape how each of you shows up.
The goal is not “perfect communication.” It’s a relationship that feels more connected, more resilient, and easier to live inside.
Couples therapy FAQ
Will you take my partner’s side?
No. Couples therapy isn’t about deciding who’s “right.” It’s about understanding the pattern you’re both caught in—and how each of you contributes to it, especially under stress.
Our role is to keep the room emotionally safe and help you communicate in a way that leads to understanding and repair, not winners and losers.
Will our couples therapist tell us we should break up (or stay together)?
A couples therapist won’t tell you whether to stay or leave. That decision belongs to you.
What we can do is help you understand what’s happening between you, clarify your needs and boundaries, and see your options more clearly. Sometimes that means strengthening the relationship; sometimes it means making a thoughtful decision about what comes next. Either way, the work is about honesty, insight, and repair—not pressure.
How can I convince my partner to come in for couples therapy/marriage counseling?
The best approach is to invite—not push. Keep it specific and low-drama: name what’s not working, what you miss, and what you hope therapy could help with.
You might say: “I don’t want us to keep having the same fight. I’d like us to get help learning how to talk and reconnect. Would you be willing to try a few sessions with me?”
If they still won’t come, you can start on your own. Individual sessions can help you clarify what you want, change your side of the pattern, and decide your next steps.
Does online couples therapy really work?
Online couples therapy can be highly effective—especially when both partners show up consistently and are willing to look at the pattern, not just the topic of the argument. Sessions are structured and focused, and many couples find it easier to attend regularly when travel and scheduling friction are removed. If one or both of you are unsure whether virtual work is a fit, we’ll talk it through and make a plan.
How long does couples therapy take?
The length of couples therapy depends on what you’re working through and how entrenched the pattern feels. Some couples come for a focused period around a specific issue, while others stay longer to shift deeper dynamics that have built over years—or to maintain a steady space for continued growth and connection once things feel more stable. We’ll revisit goals together and adjust as the work unfolds.
Can couples therapy help if our arguments escalate quickly?
Yes. We work with couples who feel caught in fast escalation or cyclical arguments that are hard to interrupt. Sessions are structured so both partners have space to speak and be heard. The goal isn’t to eliminate disagreement—it’s to change how conflict unfolds so it becomes less reactive and more workable.
Not sure you can fix this—but willing to try?
Couples therapy isn’t about assigning blame or deciding who is right. It’s a space to understand what’s happening beneath the surface and make room for a different kind of conversation. Whether you’re trying to move through a specific impasse, rebuild trust, or feel close again, therapy can be a grounded place to begin.
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